Author - notyourwife1214

Dear Body, I Love You. – Shivani Patel

“Look at her hips, they’re getting so wide” I heard my mother exclaim, “It’s called puberty” I replied back, I was 12 or 13 and, as a stereotypical Indian, was a science geek with sass to boot. Academically I...


Why I Have No Time For Complainers – Ria Rai

Why I Have No Time For Complainers Well, here goes guys!… I don’t want to hear any complaints! Kidding...feedback is always appreciated!    Complaining?    We all do it. One comment just leads onto another. It just rolls of the tongue! Infact research states that most people complain...


The Gen X Brown Parent is “Stuck in the Middle” – Krishma Arora

New parents often say they wish their kids came with a manual. Truthfully, I wish there was a manual for Brown parents. Imagine a book that outlined how to balance old world cultural values with a new age perspective?...


What’s in a name? – Neety Cheema

Allow me to properly introduce myself. I am a 37-year-old Optometrist. I have been married for 9 years to a wonderful and supportive husband. I have 3 amazing kids, two girls and one boy and they range in ages...


The dangers of being a ‘dutiful daughter’ – Simran Sahdra

Since the dawn of time, women have been known to be and inherently are caregivers. This is no different now in 2020 and is especially no different in the case of south-asian women since our cultures are heavily based...


The Inner Thoughts of A Child Of Divorce – Kimmi Tak

I’m 27 years old, a British Punjabi woman, I have a degree in business and economics (not relevant but my dad would never forgive me if I didn’t state the biggest thing he’s proud of)… and I’m a child...


Unknown Land – Anju Sharma

Title: “Unknown Land” My ancestors germinated from dehydrated soil in Hindustan Flowered vividly in colour Grew with roots so strong Even massacres were an ineffective herbicide Women talked in dim light Wiping sweat from their brows Wondering why their daughter cried She had jewellery and a wealthy merchant Here...


Britain’s lack of dialogue with its past – Sharin Raja

Britain’s lack of dialogue with its past. I recently re-posted something on my IG story which said ‘If I could summarise British racism in one sentence it would be: British people are more appalled by accusations of racism than they...


Being a Brown Woman in Nuclear Engineering – Serish Tanya Hussain

I never really chose to study chemical engineering, I think the degree chose me. I had been solely focused on studying medicine, primarily to keep up expectations and to study something everyone would be proud of, as quite a...


When did you last check your Emotional Temperature? – Dr. Sunayana Nandagopal

When was the last time you had your temperature taken? This would have been a weird question to ask someone in 2019, however, not a very weird thing to ask in 2020! In our current, pandemic-hit world, many of...